There’s a trait many brides want in a wedding dress, but won’t admit. Why do so many women ban the word “sexy” when wedding shopping? Ladies, there’s a way to be sexy without being inappropriate on your big day. If you’re secretly shopping sexy wedding dresses—stop! Be proud of your confidence and just shop smart; the key to bombshell style is balance. If you’re going short on the bottom, cover up on top. If you’re obsessed with plunging backs, make sure the girls have more coverage. Below are some of my favorite flirtatious gowns that will drop jaws without raising eyebrows.

Your shopping list for sexy wedding dresses.

A plunging back.

Brides love backless wedding dresses. They show skin in the right places, highlighting toned shoulder blades. Most low-back gowns have sheath or slight A-line silhouettes which gently hug the figure. You probably won’t find any strapless styles with this element, but rather V and cowl necklines. If you’re concerned about being too suggestive, choose a look with a higher neck. Remember that your bust should still be supported in some way, even if you can’t wear a corset or normal bra. Talk to your seamstress about sewing cups into the top of your dress.

Classy cleavage.

There’s nothing wrong with a little cleavage when it’s done right. First, the girls should always be covered on the sides. I don’t care what the celebrities are showing off these days, it’s not considered “classy” for the big day. If you want traditional cleavage, a deep V or supportive sweetheart will create a voluptuous figure. If you’re nervous about a really deep V, consider adding some see-through fabric to create an illusion neckline. I’m a believer in bras no matter your chest size, and there are always options. Since it’s a popular neckline, undergarments and seamstresses have kept up—just ask!

A flattering fit-and-flare.

Showing skin isn’t the definition of sexy. Sometimes a body-hugging gown that flatters your beautiful figure is even better. Fit-and-flares are the perfect silhouette if you want a shapely style. This popular look is ideal for an hourglass figure, hugging your curves and eventually flaring out with plenty of drama. Concerned about a tight fit? Shapewear is an easy solution, so please eat the week of your wedding.

Show a little leg.

There are two great ways to show off great legs. The obvious option is a short bridal gown. Allure has some enticing lace styles that would work for a casual ceremony or reception dress. The other way would be a high slit on one side. This design always reminds me of old Hollywood, especially since it’s often found on slinky styles with a flattering waistline. If you love your legs, this is the safest way to be bit risqué.

Find your definition of “sexy.”

There’s no shame in wanting your groom’s jaw to drop—every bride secretly wishes for the exact same thing! If your confidence calls for a little sex appeal, find a style that has it. Just remember to keep balance and taste in mind, and you’re sure to find the sexy wedding dress of your dreams. Any more tips for shopping hott wedding gowns such as these? Share your tips in a comment below!