Trying to figure out how to get your groom involved? The wedding planning checklist can often look miles long in the eyes of a groom-to-be. He may not care about flowers, invitations, or DIY centerpieces, but I can guarantee that a few of the following items may mean more. I promise this list goes further than the flavor of your cake or kegs. We asked what your groom cares about on Facebook, and you gave us plenty of answers.  I took the liberty of adding a few of my own. Here’s a shorter planning list that will keep his attention and keep him involved.

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10 things your groom-to-be will give a second glance:

1. The Budget

This one is obvious. Many brides complain about their man only talking about money, money, money. Just remember that he’s trying to keep eyes on the prize (and maybe a down payment on that new house).

2. Wedding Colors

He may not go as far as picking out the linens and flowers, but I can tell you he’ll have a say over pink and white vs. green and gold.

3. His Groom and Groomsmen Attire

Your groom-to-be wants to look dashing on the big day! Let him pick out his own groom and groomsmen attire (within reason). Give him style guidance, but remember to let him choose. Show him suspenders, vests, and colorful ties to see what he loves the most.

4. What You Wear

You should always remember that this is your dream dress, not anyone else’s. But I wouldn’t surprise your groom-to-be with a look that doesn’t resemble the woman he fell for in the first place! He’s already nervous, girl! Get glammed up, but don’t hide the everyday beauty he loves.

5. The Wedding Registry

I certainly understand the need for a KitchenAid mixer and new cutlery set, but your groom may have his eyes on a new TV or tool set. Registering is one of the most important wedding planning tasks to do together. Prioritize what you need over what you want, but allow each other to pick a few personalized items.

6. The Menu

One of the first things your man will ask about is the menu. This is the perfect wedding planning checklist item to do together! Will your groom really complain about going to tastings? Doubtful. If you have the option to design your own menu, combine your favorite foods into one fabulous meal! I don’t think your guests will complain if you serve mac ‘n’ cheese and chicken wings, do you?

7. Delicious Dessert

This is one more item your groom-to-be will love to help out with. Most of your ‘maids will want to join you when you dive into dessert options, but I guarantee your groom will too! If you’re having a groom’s cake, let him design it.

8. The Playlist

Most grooms say that the reception is the most important part of the big day. A wedding is just one big, beautiful party right? Why not stay in one night with wine to create your wedding reception playlist together? Combine your favorite songs into a playlist that reflects your relationship. Don’t forget to pick your first dance and his mother/groom dance, too!

9. The Honeymoon

Okay, I spoke too soon. The honeymoon is probably the most important to the groom. Discuss what each of you wants and design your dream vacation. Remember the three R’s: rest, relaxation, and plenty of romance.

10. What It’s All About

Your groom may not care about bridesmaid dresses, altar décor, or save-the-dates, but he does care about something very important: you. He got down on one knee so that he could spend the rest of his life with you! So while this wedding should be everything you’ve dreamed of, he’s there to make a promise. A promise to love, cherish, and support you for the rest of his life!