Featured Bride Nikki S., Wedding Location: Minnetonka, MN | Wedding Date: April 9, 2011
Teamwork Makes Dream Work: Wedding Planning.Reid an I are learning how to plan together and through this, learning a ton about each other and the ways we think. I like to know everything and weigh my options before making a decision and Reid is all about efficiency. If something is taking too long, he gets frustrated and loses interest. We fall into two separate categories, efficiency and quality. Knowing this, going into making decisions on wedding stuff, or even looking for a house, has benefited us greatly. If we stop focusing on how different we are and trying to change the others view to fit ours, we can learn to appreciate our unique personalities. Difference isn't a bad thing, like this blog may sound. Differences are wonderful things that allow Reid and I to complement each other. It means that we know each other's strengths and use them to our advantage as a team. I would recommend guys to really pitch in and work with your fiance to plan the event, no matter how big or small. Often times men think that the wedding planning is for the wife, which is a lazy thought. I understand some women say they don't want any help. Maybe they are completely fine with doing it all, but I promise you the offer of wanting to contribute goes a long way. Get excited to help, its just one day, but you are a team and this is training for making decisions as husband and wife. Reid echos this in a blog he wrote about how wedding planning is going from his perspective.
Planning from the lens of a Fiance:Wedding planning is not my idea of fun, but I do enjoy serving Nikki. I have learned that I can be very task centered. If something needs to be done or fixed I want to do it right away. Nikki differs from that approach and likes to know all her options and see everything, taking her time to pick things out. So naturally I have been frustrated at points, but we are learning how to work together and use each other's strengths. An example of that would be Nikki recently gave me a to-do list of things she wouldn't enjoy, or even things she hasn't had time to do, and I did them. This frees her up to focus on things she really enjoys and gives me a chance to really pitch in. In general, for all you brides, realize guys care a lot more about you than your bridesmaid dress color or centerpieces- so be direct and tell him what you want him to do. Also give him fun stuff to plan, like the honeymoon! -Reid
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