In recent years, an old wedding day role has been given a new title: the personal attendant. Many people consider a personal attendant to be a throw-away role, or the job you give to the gal that just missed the cut on being a bridesmaid. I’m here to tell you that being chosen as a personal attendant is an honorable title that should be taken seriously! You will be at the bride’s side all day, like a personal assistant, making sure she is happy, tended to, and that the wedding day timeline is running smoothly. If you’ve been selected for this very important role, I will help you become the best personal attendant ever.
Understand your pre-wedding duties and the wedding planning checklist.
Determining what the bridal attendant’s pre-wedding duties are can be confusing since you’re not a bridesmaid. However, you are still part of the wedding party. Generally, if the bride asks you to help with any part of her wedding planning checklist, you should. Common duties include: addressing invitations, decorating the venue(s), planning or attending showers and parties, and, most importantly, learning how to work with her gown. I highly recommend attending the final fitting with your bride to learn how to bustle her dress. It’s your job to make sure she looks beautiful on her big day, and whether you’re lacing up a corset wedding dress, or bustling a long train, practice makes perfect. Once you’ve helped the bride with her tasks, ask her for your own wedding planning checklist. Make sure you know what she expects of you and the wedding day timeline she desires.What are bridal emergency kit essentials?
One of the most important roles of the personal attendant is to create the bridal emergency kit. This kit will contain everything that the bride or wedding party could possibly need on the big day. What should be included in your bridal emergency kit?- Lip gloss, makeup, makeup remover, and Q-tips
- Tissues, tampons, and deodorant
- Pain-killers, Pepto-Bismol, Band-Aids, and personal medications
- Granola bars and water bottles
- Mints, dental floss, toothpaste, and a toothbrush
- Hair combs, hair spray, bobby pins, hair ties, and a mirror
- Tide-to-Go, fashion tape, a sewing kit, and a lint roller,
- Any personal items belonging to the bride or wedding party
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Images courtesy of Staja Studios (Left) and Appleye Photography (Right)
Love this post!
I’ve been a personal attendant once before but it wasn’t this hands-on. I’ve recently been asked to be one again and these tips are pretty handy! Thanks for the info!
I just recently became a personal attendant for my longtime boyfriends sisters wedding, it’s in less than two weeks and I am freaking out, this post is awesome! thank you for such great tips!!