Some girls spend their entire lives dreaming of the perfect white lace bridal gown that they’ll don in front of all of their loved ones while toasting signature cocktails and dancing the night away to a live jazz band. Other girls….don’t. If there’s one thing that any bride-to-be can tell you, it’s that planning a wedding is no joke: There are dresses to buy, desserts to taste, colors to coordinate, and mothers-in-law to please. Does your high school friend get a plus one? How are you going to accommodate your aunt’s dietary restrictions? Should you risk it and get hitched outside in November? Guys, it’s a lot. We get it. You just want something simple, low-key, and relaxing. Enter: eloping. This perfect under-the-radar option has long appealed to brides- and grooms-to-be that are hoping to say “I do” in an intimate and romantic setting. To help you decide if that’s the right path for you and your fiancé, we’ve compiled a list of the best things to consider when planning your big (or small) day!
Eloping: Why Everyone Should Consider It
Budget friendlyRegardless of how extravagant you make your elopement, it’s almost sure to be cheaper than a regular wedding, which leaves room in the budget for trip-planning and house-buying! So if you’re more about the honeymoon and less about the nuptials, then eloping might be the perfect fit for you.
No rules!Throw your wedding planner out the window—you’re making the rules! Want to wear a blue dress and sip on a cocktail mid-ceremony? Go for it, girl!
VIP Guest listIf you can’t imagine getting married without your best friends and family by your side, then don’t worry! You don’t have to. One of the major pros about eloping is making your guest list as small or large as you want. Keep in mind that some people might not want to spend the money to jet off to your destination location, but those who are closest to you are sure to make the trip.
Less stress!Eloping is the perfect way to ease into your marriage. Wedding planning can put a lot of stress on future newlyweds, so keeping your celebration low-key will eliminate some of the hassle and arguments that come along with the planning process.
PrivacyNo, your fifth cousin twice removed doesn’t need to watch the most intimate moment of your life. Elopement is perfect for couples that don’t like the idea of 300 people watching them say their vows.
Destination locationConsider it an extended honeymoon! Jet off to a luxurious destination location to say your “I do’s.” Take it somewhere tropical for a breezy beach ceremony, or channel your inner adventurer and get hitched mountainside!
Gifts!300 people. You’ll be drowning in gifts. Need I say more?
Limited guest listWith less people invited, you’ll have fewer friends and family to share in your special day with you. While there are a number of positives to inviting fewer people, it may feel isolating to not have some of your besties by your side.
Less of a partyIf you love planning massive parties and being the center of attention, then eloping might not be for you. You only get to throw one extravagant wedding, after all!
Creating disappointmentInevitably, those who aren’t invited to your intimate soiree might be hurt or disappointed. Be sensitive to the feelings of your family and friends as you consider who makes the cut onto the guest list.
TipsIf the pros outweigh the cons, here are a few tips to consider to ease the elopement planning process:
Breaking the newsThe first, and arguably most difficult, part of eloping is breaking it to your family. You aren’t the only one who has dreamt about this day, so be sensitive to their feelings when you take to the plate to tell them about your decision. Technically, eloping means to run off and secretly get hitched without telling your family or friends. However, it’s probably a good idea to let them know what you’re planning—and maybe even invite them to attend. Letting them know beforehand will allow them to feel like they’re still in on your big day, even if they can’t be there to witness it.
Consider having an intimate event to celebrateGetting married is a huge milestone in your life, and it’s totally worth celebrating! Invite your family and closest friends to a brunch, cocktail party, or at-home dinner celebration to acknowledge your commitment to one another. It doesn’t have to be anything off-the-wall fancy for your loved-ones to feel appreciated!
Amy of LaCoursiere & Co.