10 Things Your Wedding Guests Don't Care About

It's a universal truth – wedding planning is stressful. With an endless list of things to do, from the décor to the dress to the catering and everything in between, the stress can pile on at lightning-fast speeds. One minute, you're trying to choose between roses and ranunculus. Before you know it, you've fallen down the Pinterest hole, scrolling between 19 slightly different shades of pink petals while stress-eating wedding cake samples.

That said, there are more than a few items on your wedding checklist that guests pay far less attention to than you think. Instead of driving yourself crazy over the teeniest details, save yourself the headache (and probably a few bucks, too) by knowing what matters to your guests, and more importantly, what doesn't. Read on for our handy list of wedding details that guests don't really care about – plus a few that they do!

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List of Things Wedding Guest Don’t Care About

Wedding Invitations

I hate to break it to you, but these little suckers end up in the recycling bin faster than you can say, “I now pronounce you husband and wife.” Sure, it’s the very first introduction to your wedding, but a beautiful invitation is a beautiful invitation. No one is judging your choice of paper stock, ornamentation or font (just trust me on this one). 

Solution

The average couple spends $445 on their wedding invites. Don’t stress about your invites and instead find an affordable option that fits your budget. There are tons of retailers that would surprise you with their collections of wedding invitations, such as Costco, Target, Walmart, Shutterfly, or Etsy.

On Etsy, you can even pay a flat rate for an instant download, and then print as many as you need. The invitations featured below are super affordable while also being super cute so you can definitely find a middle ground here. 

YellowStudioShop Wedding Invitations

Wedding Invitations | YellowStudioShop

Ceremony Programs

Same explanation as wedding invitations (but with a far shorter lifespan)

Solution

Programs are super cute, but if you want to skip them and save the money, your guests won’t care. Instead, create a few DIY chalkboards or wooden signs that have your schedule or other necessary details listed on them. Have a few of these around the ceremony and reception site, and your guests will get a general idea.

EAKdeals Chalkboard Sign

Chalkboard Sign | EAKdeals

Wedding Guest Book

Guest books can get pricey, and the cost can skyrocket once you start piling on the works. Please do yourself a favor and keep it simple, or go ahead and nix it altogether. Your guests won’t miss it, and in the age of digital photography, you’ll have tons of tons of snaps of your family and friends sharing your special day. If that doesn’t beat a scrawled name on a page (or a smudgy thumbprint), I don’t know what does.

Solution

If you decide to go with a guestbook, create something simple. A cute DIY board like the one pictured below is charming, cheap, and something you can display after the wedding. Your guests won’t care that you made it yourself.

I once attended a wedding where the couple had one of their engagement photos framed and then removed the glass so we could sign the paper matte inside of the frame. It was super simple, and they have it hanging in their living room now.

EastInADay Wedding Guest Book

Guest Book | EastInADay

Flowers

Now don’t get me wrong; floral arrangements are almost always a welcome addition to your chosen venue and can inject the space with a bit of your style. But while no one will argue that golden dip-dyed roses aren’t gorgeous, they’re also a total waste of time and money.

Trust us, and no one will notice the lack of designer blooms and your artfully arranged farmer’s market flowers will be just as striking – at a fraction of the price. Guests will appreciate the thoughtful, fragrant flourishes no matter what, regardless of whether you’ve chosen exotic blooms from far-flung corners of the world or locally grown greenery.

Solution 

Instead of spending a fortune on fancy designer flowers, visit your local farmer’s market or florist. Your guests will have no idea where your flowers came from, so why spend all the extra money? On the morning of my cousin’s wedding, she had her bridesmaids pick up all her bulbs from Costco. And you know what? They looked great! Or you can even get faux flowers that last a lifetime!

KissKissFlorals Wedding Flowers

Wedding Flowers | KissKissFlorals

Table Linens

Wedding guests, don’t pay much mind to your tablecloths. As long as I don’t have to eat my halibut off of a dirty old burlap sack, I’ll be just fine, thank you very much. Specialty linens can get costly, so save yourself the buck and choose something simple and functional that blends seamlessly with your décor – no muss, no fuss.

Solution

Save the money and choose something simple.

DecoVita Table Linens

Table Linens | DecoVita

Wedding Dress

This one may be a bit controversial, but I think that blowing your bridal budget on a fancy-schmancy gown to wear it once and never again is less than practical. It’s not what you wear but how you wear it, so as long as you’re comfortable and feel like your best, most beautiful self, well, that’s good enough for me.

That’s not to say that guests won’t remember an outlandish or ill-fitting dress, but if the bride is rocking a beautifully tailored gown that makes her look and feel like the goddess she is, guests won’t bat an eyelash at the lack of designer label.

Solution 

Before you panic, let me clarify and say that your guests care about your dress. What they won’t think twice about is the price or designer of your dress. So don’t take out a small loan to buy a dress with a fancy designer label that you hope will impress your guests.

Instead, find a dress that fits you and your personality well. Shop our sample sales, clearance, and online to find a perfectly beautiful dress that won’t break your bank. You could even wear a second-hand wedding dress, and no one would know the difference. Check out our large selection of bridal gowns under $1,000!

Casablanca 2063 Wedding Dress

Wedding Dress | Casablanca 2063

First Dance

Short of a live performance by Adele to provide the soundtrack, no one will remember your first dance. A nervous, shaky, overly choreographed routine may be what sticks with them. Instead of the weeks of rehearsal required to try and fix your two left feet, it’s more important just to be yourself and enjoy the moment.

Tackle a few moves that you feel 100% comfortable performing, no matter how simple, and watch the pressure melt away. Great for you, great for your guests and great for your wedding photos - Everyone wins!

Solution

Smile, relax, and have fun. If you don’t feel confident in your dancing skills, be able to laugh at yourself because your guests will appreciate that way more than a nervous, awkward dance. This is a moment for you and your new spouse, so enjoy it!

Wedding Shoppe Real Wedding Kacey Wyrick Photography

Wedding Shoppe Real Wedding | Kacey Wyrick Photography

Wedding Cake

Towering layers, handcrafted sugar paste designs, 24-carat gold motifs. The painstakingly detailed wedding cake is undoubtedly gorgeous, but guests won’t miss those details if you opt for an elegantly simple confection instead. As long as it tastes delicious, you’ve got a guaranteed crowd-pleaser (and let’s be honest, it will, because of CAKE).

Speaking of tasty treats, a dessert bar is a great option as well. Swap the cake for an array of equally delicious (and comparatively affordable) cupcakes, macarons, or ice cream sundaes, and guests will be just as pleased.

Solution

Get creative with the cake topper. This is a way to personalize the wedding, add to the theme of the wedding and MORE!

Wedding Cake Topper RawKrft

Wedding Cake Topper | Rawkrft

Bouquet Toss

This tradition has become somewhat archaic in recent years, with many brides opting to skip it altogether. Do it or don’t do it – it all depends on your vision – but rest assured that if you opt-out, it’s likely that no one will miss it. Besides, less time assembling the masses for the ceremonial pitch means more time on the dance floor! 

Solution 

Do it or don't, but have fun and don't stress about it. Also, don't feel like you have to use real flowers for the toss!

RoseandRebel Faux Flowers

Faux Flowers | RoseandRebel

Wedding Favors

An edible sweet treat that guests can enjoy in the afterglow of the wedding as they share memories of your spectacular soirée – well, I can’t argue with you there. But engraved champagne flutes, customized candles, and other novelty items are forgettable for guests and an added expense for the bride and groom.

A fancy soap might seem like an excellent idea for the beautiful soaping-loving couple, but for most of your guests, it’s the adult equivalent of getting raisins on Halloween. One in 50 will love it; the other 49 will dump them on your lawn.

Solution

Take the money you had set aside for favors and donate those dollars to your charity of choice. A sweet note will let guests know that a donation has been made instead of those takeaway gifts, a gesture that any wedding guest would be thrilled to support. If you still want to give out favors: pick something sweet and simple.

Food is always a great idea here. Otherwise, I’ve seen couples skip the favors and opt for just the photo booth instead. Guests usually love these things, and taking pictures is a fun memory for everyone.

ChocolatesUnlimited Wedding Favors

Wedding Favors | ChocolatesUnlimited

With that, we hope to help alleviate some of the stress of wedding planning by helping you not sweat the small stuff.

What Do Guests Care Most About?

Ceremony

It goes without saying that guests will be overjoyed to watch the happy couple proclaim their love and be joined in wedded bliss – I mean, it’s kind of the whole point – but the crowd may start to get restless during a long, drawn-out ceremony.

One of the most common guest complaints is having to sit through a too-long production, so keep it short and sweet (roughly 30 minutes or less) for a happy clan.

Wedding Shoppe Real Wedding Taylor Hendrickson Photography

Wedding Shoppe Real Wedding | Taylor Hendrickson Photography

Food

Enjoying a decadent meal with loved ones is a treat for guests, so make sure your food choices are crowd-pleasers. A fantastic meal will keep those good vibes going, but a bad one could really bring down the mood. In addition, be sure to offer options for vegetarians or those with common allergies, like gluten and nuts. 

Tonya Hjort Photography Wedding Shoppe Real Wedding

Wedding Shoppe Real Wedding | Tonya Hjort Photography

Drinks

Weddings and booze go together like peanut butter and jelly. Bottom line: Keep the drinks flowing, because there’s nothing that wedding guests hate more than the liquor well running dry. Forgoing the fully stocked bar is fine; an edited menu of Champagne, wine, beer, and one or two specialty cocktails will keep guests in high spirits all night long.

Wedding Shoppe Real Wedding Kelly Morin Photography

Wedding Shoppe Real Wedding | Kelly Morin Photography

Music

The tunes will be going strong from the first arrivals through the last dance, so make sure your music list is on point, especially once guests start hitting the dance floor. Skip the chicken dance and opt for fun, contemporary tunes that everyone is sure to know and love to unite the crowd and get people moving.

Wedding Shoppe Real Wedding Karen Feder Photography

Wedding Shoppe Real Wedding | Karen Feder Photography

Venue

Common sense is the key here. Skip the outdoor venue during the hottest, most humid days of summer, and likewise, choose an indoor spot during the fall and winter months when temps may be chilly.

Outside of the climate, a unique venue is something they’ll also care about, particularly if the journey to your wedding is a trek for some of your far-flung guests. A seriously cool spot is much more of a draw than, say, Hotel Ballroom #3, don’t you think? 

Wedding Shoppe Real Wedding Kelsey James Photography

Wedding Shoppe Real Wedding | Kelsey James Photography

Conclusion

Hopefully, this guide was able to put some wedding planning details into perspective. Wedding planning is SO stressful that being able to brush aside some of those worries can be a huge relief. Sometimes it's easy to forget that your wedding day is exactly that: YOUR wedding.

Instead of stressing about what you think your guests want, do what you want. Remember that your wedding day is above all about you and your spouse and the love you share, so take a deep breath and think about what is actually important. Good luck!  

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I’m not popular with people, no. But here’s my two cents.

1. Food allergies/preferences.
We tried to make as many people as happy as we could. I don’t eat a lot of meat (pescaterian). We had a thanksgiving meal and NO children’s menu, as I told my ex mother in law that children need to learn to eat what is in front of them or not at all, like we used to do.
It’s not that I don’t respect that others have different needs and preferences, but you can’t win. Ask any parent and they’ll tell you that it’s hard enough to make something that everyone in their own family will eat, much less that 50-250 will all enjoy.

2. If you “need” alcohol to enjoy a wedding, please don’t come at all. Thanks.

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May 16, 2019 09:02

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May 16, 2019 09:00

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May 16, 2019 08:59

This is actually a pretty good list.

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May 16, 2019 08:59

I will amend my previous post to add though that your wedding need not be an extravagant affair.

Your wedding is YOURS-not your friends.

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May 16, 2019 08:59

I don’t care about the ceremony. I skip attending when I can. They can be really sappy and embarrassing. Also, not a churchy type so much of the God part is lost on me. Ceremony goes to the top of the list of things I wish were not part of the whole wedding celebration. Keep it to family only.

Catherine
May 16, 2019 08:59

Silliest article EVER! If you think your guests take no notice or care over the things you listed then perhaps you need new friends.
The biggest event of your life and your “friends” overlook or don’t care about the preparation you’ve made for their pleasure and enjoyment?

Ammette
May 16, 2019 08:59

Love the list too! I’m in the planning stages now and this really helps! What is really important :) thank you!

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May 16, 2019 08:59

There is a lot of good info here. I do my research and bargain buy everything humanly possible. Planning my own wedding for this summer. I used Vistaprint for invitations, RSVP cards and enclosure cards – total spent was $290. My dress is absolutely beautiful from Amazon for $149 and alterations will cost $250. Shoes for $39. Dexin Floral has real touch flowers (amazingly real!) and doing all our flowers (bouquets, centerpieces, boutineers – you name it – for $300… and they will all be useful for years to come instead of real flowers that die or silk flowers that look totally fake! My biggest expense was venue and vendors… found a package deal for videographer, DJ and Photographer through ThePros.com (pick your own people, every photo taken is yours at no extra cost – no “photo packages”, which is where photographers usually get ya).
As for alcohol… a “cash bar”… let people pay for their own if they want it. I paid $100 for the bartender.
So… I see a lot of nasty comments on here … but for those of you who are planning an elegant huge wedding like I am, this article is full of many truths and the parts that don’t reflect what you want out of your own vision you can just pass over.

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May 16, 2019 08:59

I just have to say, all ya’ll are being ridiculous when you say this is a terrible list. If you don’t like the announcement and are judging them for TINY DETAILS on the happiest day of the couple’s lives’, then don’t go. No one wants judgy asshats at their happy event. Or, keep your negativity to yourselves! This is the couple’s first time planning a wedding it’s not going to be perfection to you but it may be to them. I love this list because it’s helping me ground myself in the midst of planning a wedding. Yay for helpful lists and weddings!

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May 16, 2019 08:59

This is beyond perfect!!! I am marrying my high school sweetheart after reconnecting many years later and I now feel at peace about planning my wedding to a man that has never left my heart. Let the calm planning begin… : )) Thank you sooo much!!

Sue
May 16, 2019 08:59

Love this list!

When we got married, we did DIY invitations (if I could do it over I would email!).
We had pretty basic flowers, arranged stunningly by the owner of the venue. He even set some in balls that hung from the ceiling – it looked like a fairy-tail!
My dress was made by a friend of my mom’s, who happened to run a lucrative side-business sowing bridal and prom gowns (lucky me!).
Instead of a guest book, we handed out blank cards, on which the guests wrote their messages. We had these inserted in the back our wedding photo-book, along with photos of the guests. Honestly – this is my favorite part of the photo-book!
Instead of an over-priced cake, we had a pretty stack of boxes with artisanal chocolate truffles – these also doubled as guest favors.
We skipped the ceremony – only one short speech by my darling hubby, no toasts, no bouquet throwing, no cake cutting, no choreographed details. In fact, nothing at all was choreographed, and nothing was rehearsed. That reduced the stress, because there was nothing to get wrong.
The venue was basic but the chapel was gorgeous, the guest list small and the food delicious, and the evening was simply a celebration of our love and the start of our life together.
And even now, 9 years later, guests still talk about how much they enjoyed our wedding.

If I could do it over again, the only thing I would change would be to spend less time with the photographer, and more with my guests.

Dannisue
May 16, 2019 08:59

Love your suggestion list. Our son is marrying this summer. Would it be appropriate to send invitations via e-mail? This way guests could download to save the date or print if they wish a hard copy. No expense to order, print, postage, etc. Tks

CABL
May 16, 2019 08:59

I am definitely in the “people have missed the point camp”. I attended 5 weddings in the past year alone and am planning my own, which means I’m drowning in wedding websites and Pinterest. These list reads strictly as “if you are looking for a place to spend money, you may want to focus on these things”. I watched my best friend STRESS outrageously over her wedding (I was MOH) because she didn’t know what to do about favors (settled on a CD), picking colors of things, how not to blow the budget on her dress, “what if the guests don’t like ____”, etc. She could probably tell you know that none of it really mattered AS MUCH AS SHE THOUGHT IT WOULD. Overall, everyone had a wonderful time, the ceremony and reception were beautiful (we made her arrangements and the bouquets), the food and drink were good and plentiful. As many others pointed out, it’s more the feel of it that most recall, not specifically which designer made her dress or whether she should have spent money on roses vs. hydrangea. This list helped remind me where I should focus my money and what is most LIKELY to create a beautiful and memorable event.
P.S. To the lady who feels the favors are required because she brought a gift, shame on you. Most couples are already forking out $10,000+ for an amazing party that you were privileged enough to be invited to, sad that you think you are owed more.

Sarahaha
May 16, 2019 08:59

As someone with alcoholics for in-laws, I made sure there was not a drop of booze at my wedding – a decade later, not a soul cares. Thumbs down.

Nancy
May 16, 2019 08:59

I was amazed that people are so rude, this is only a guideline and quite frankly I thought it was a great list. My husband and are doing a renewal this year, since we eloped, we are going to have a formal ceremony now. Great ideas and IMO, very true.

Teri
May 16, 2019 08:59

Wow, the different perspectives. My husband officiated over many weddings over the years and I watched as very nice couples went into debt to create something that lasted at most 20 minutes. Debt/money problems are a great contributor to marital disharmony. Please, please be wise in how you plan your wedding. Consider your cultural taboos and traditions. Make it nice but do not do what you think others expect. Do what you want. We all get wrapped up in doing what we think everyone expects. Several of the comments were spot on: this is about the couple beginning their lives together and having a special event to celebrate that. Make it what you want, what you can afford and not what others expect.

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Jessica Diep
May 16, 2019 08:59

Nope, have to say this is a great list.

Recently got engaged, and I already do not see the point of having programs or printed invitations when everyone has an email address. Plus it saves the earth so why not?! And honestly, I’ve been to many weddings where they don’t give out programs and I didn’t notice until the wedding finished.

And it’s always a great thing to be able to donate money to a charity instead of buying gifts that clogs up people’s homes and that they don’t use. Why not use it to support a local soup kitchen as the first altruistic act as a married couple?!

Sue
May 16, 2019 08:59

Oh please let’s not, knock the tradition out of everything.
I’m all for the reduced cost, mime was a traditional not expensive wedding.
We had a fabulous time planning it and an even better time once the day came.
Most important is to remember to take the time to enjoy it.
And tell the photographer to leave you alone for a while.

Sue S
May 16, 2019 08:59

Perhaps it’s the title of this piece that sets the mood. It HAS received a lot of feedback. Times h a v e changed. Considering where the financial means will come from isn’t touched on till some of the comments and it’s important . Emphisis seems to be that ‘the couple’ is footing the whole bill, here and on many sites, but honestly it’s very rare. The time DOES come when the talk about “how much I/we can afford to spend” and compromise begins. How far in the future the couple chooses to marry is important, too. How much time will there be? Time equals money and the amount of stress. There is a difference between excitement and stress. I am the bride’s mom. Hitting the lottery, between now and then, is the only thing that would make a difference. She’s thoughtful, considerate, understanding and thankful. My future son-in-law values that his likes, dislikes and input are equally important. Every aspect to every wedding is different. It’s that special day with family and friends, not “guests”, where YOU should be the focus and the topic of good conversation. If they love you and accept you for who you are the other 364 days of the year, why is impressing t h e m so important? There’s one last question to ask: Will everyone walk away with a sigh of relief that it turned out beautiful or post wedding stress HaViNg to recoupe money that really couldn’t be afforded?

Brianna
May 16, 2019 08:58

Awesome advice. I’ll already have some help cutting costs, I have a good friend making my cake for a lot less than commercial bakeries and since I work at a craft store, discounts abound on centerpieces and flowers!

Alisa
May 16, 2019 08:58

I’m SO glad I read this list! The biggest take away, here, was what was mentioned about invitations. I’m having a destination wedding in Mexico and am about to crack down on ordering my invitations. I’ve been pretty set on doing a Passport style invite, but they’re definitely spendier & I think it’d be smarter to save some some of that money for other expenses. Thank you for opening my eyes!!!

Jacquelyn
May 16, 2019 08:58

lol everyone is so heated…from a list…on a website…acting like it just completely destroyed their life to read it…I personally liked it, a lot of good points that made sense.

Lily
May 16, 2019 08:58

Wow this list has generated a ton of comments. As a woman married for 7 years, I 100% agree with this list. I’ve been to extravagent weddings that were nice but nothing special and been to very low-budget weddings that were so sweet and the couple so clearly happy that I still smile thinking about it.

Jamie
May 16, 2019 08:58

Great advice – I was actually trying to work out how to cull some names off our invite list and stumbled across this blog. Gave it a read and think it is really solid advice.

Planning any event is hard and everyone has different opinions, but I think this is a nice ‘go to’ for any couple in the pre wedding phase.

Thanks Stephanie,

Ashley
May 16, 2019 08:58

I’m planning my wedding now and found the point of this article to be very helpful. I have made it my goal NOT to stress at all…although, I know I will as it gets closer. My fiancee was the one who wanted a wedding…I would have been fine eloping. Remember, it is about you and your new spouse…don’t sweat the small stuff. :)

Paulette Belt
May 16, 2019 08:58

Well!! I don’t agree with the list.

Felicia Aguilar
May 16, 2019 08:58

This list reassured some of the decisions I’ve been making for my wedding. Sometimes I question whether I’m making the right choices, but you know, at the end of the day it’s about two people coming together as one and that’s all, not about how much money you spent on flowers or invitations. Obviously every brides priorities are different, but this really just reminds you that you don’t have to go above and beyond for every little detail because your guests are there to enjoy the moment with you and not judge what you did or didn’t do for the wedding.

Lucy Annandale
May 16, 2019 08:58

With all the thought and stress that goes into making the perfect day it’s nice to know we can relax about somethings even tho we think every minor detail should be just so in order for us to have the best day ever x

Holly
May 16, 2019 08:58

Most of things fit perfectly into most of my wedding plans. I already seemed to know what was important and what wasn’t. Getting married at my parents house is a great, beautiful and inexpensive location!

Lucy Annandale
May 16, 2019 08:58

With all the thought and stress that goes into making the perfect day it’s nice to know we can relax about somethings even tho we think every minor detail should be just so in order for us to have the best day ever x

Courtney
May 16, 2019 08:58

Reading this is definitely helping take some stress of me. The guests will not be criticizing every part of the wedding!

Sarah Cummins
May 16, 2019 08:58

Great perspective. You can get so caught up in the detail you forget what the day is all about!

Mackenzie
May 16, 2019 08:58

These are great tips and I really appreciate it!

Claire
May 16, 2019 08:58

Thanks for the perspective! Wedding planning can be so stressful!

Rachel Heier
May 16, 2019 08:58

I agree with this for the most part. While I feel like I splurged on my dress, no one really cares at the end of the day. As my mom and I have been planning, we have been most concerned about music, food, and drinks because that is what makes or breaks your party. Cake and invitations and programs (while fun to make them cute) doesn’t really matter because it’s all disposable. Guests care most about when to be there and how the cake tastes. Invites end up in the trash anyway.

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Eryn
May 16, 2019 08:58

As other people have said, this is not true for all weddings. I know I have not had all of these thoughts when attending a wedding.

Kaitlin Martin
May 16, 2019 08:58

What a wonderful article. Out of all the weddings I have been invited to all I remember is the ceremony, food and the dance!! Invitations?? nope no way!! I am for sure going to make Ben read this! He wants over the top invites!! No thanks!

Michelle
May 16, 2019 08:58

This is actually a spot-on article for me! Thanks for the reminder! We all do not need to be married to comment on this article. The correct shoe to put ourselves in here is NOT the US (the ones who are getting married) but that of a guest. How does a guest view this? How do you, as a guest invited before to a wedding ceremony, view this?

1. Of course the details of the invitation are important, but do we need to splurge for the best invitation card? Going for the classic designs always does the trick. The guests only need to know the date, time, venue and when to be there.

2. And I am actually skipping wedding favours. I have thrown away most of the wedding favours that I have been given at the weddings that I have gone to (including some chocolates because I do not eat them). I also do not like to sign wedding guestbooks. I think some attendees have the bad habit of just signing off their name (which are not legible).

3. First dance – I have been to a few where people skip it altogether.

4. Bouquet Toss – Honestly… I know exactly how the girls waiting for the bouquet toss and who do not get the bouquet feel. So, I will skip this too.

Briana
May 16, 2019 08:58

Great ideas!

Kelli
May 16, 2019 08:58

This seems to line up pretty well to where we are saving and splurging.

Janae
May 16, 2019 08:58

I always say that it’s the marriage that’s important; not the wedding! The wedding is a celebration of something much bigger :)

Chloe Brigl
May 16, 2019 08:58

Totally agree with this — just trying to feed people well, let them have fun, and show them the love!

Kari
May 16, 2019 08:58

This is pretty helpful- I agree with the dress. No point in dropping thousands on a dress you’ll only wear once, and you can get dresses made or find ones that aren’t designer that are gorgeous and much less expensive!