So we've all heard about the post wedding depression/blues. You spend months, sometimes years, planning your big event, and in less than 24 hours, it’s done. There is no more planning, no more spotlight, no more bridezilla. You’re officially a newlywed! Don’t get me wrong, I am ecstatic to reach the newlywed stage, but things are definitely going to change!
Kendra and Antonio
For those of you living separate from your fiancé, you might be in for a reality check.You know those people who don’t put the toothpaste cap on? Or the ones who don’t put the toilet paper roll on the correct way (it should go over, people)? That could be your fiancé. You just don’t know it yet! Moving in with anyone, no matter how much you love them, comes with challenges. The important thing is to talk things out before you start living together. Sure, there will be some surprises, but help yourselves out and make the transition relatively smooth.
For those of you already living together, things might go back to exactly what they were pre-wedding.You’ll have some new things, possibly a new name, and another band on your finger, but there might not be a whole lot of change. This, while totally acceptable, might be difficult to adjust to. You’ve waited your entire life for your wedding day, now it’s done, and you feel the same? Hey, that’s okay. Just make sure that you keep it exciting. This is the newlywed stage after all; enjoy it as long as you can!
Personally, I think my mind will be in overdrive post-wedding.While Antonio will be returning to his base in North Carolina shortly after the wedding, I will not be moving out there until a month after. It will be our first time living in the same state while “together”, let alone the same house. Yikes! Talk about an adjustment. I don’t picture us having post-wedding depression/ blues, so much as post-wedding shock. This is simply because the thought of actually being able to see each other regularly will seem like a dream. Even so, I don’t want to be naïve. It will take adjusting, patience, and hard work, but hey, that’s what a marriage is all about. While Antonio and I have not been able to spend much time physically together, we’ve held onto the importance of communicating which I think will help us defeat post wedding depression. We’ve talked about our living preferences and quirks. We know who would rather clean the bathroom verses the kitchen. We know how we want to handle bills, grocery shopping, and chores. It might seem silly, but having these conversations can help a lot in the long-run.
No matter what, newlywed life is an adjustment.If things are feeling way too overwhelming, take a deep breath and make sure you’re communicating with your husband or wife. Remember what your wedding actually stands for, the beginning of an adventure with your best friend. If you like Kendra's advice, check out her other posts:
- Winter Proposal Story
- Work It Out for the Wedding with a Bridal Workout!
- How to Succeed in a Long-Distance Military Relationship
- Figuring Out Your Wedding Budget