The ring bearer is a young member of the wedding party, usually a little boy (the ring bearer can also be a little girl), who walks down the aisle as part of the bridal procession, carrying a ring bear pillow with two rings tied to it (it is usually best to use decorative rings, instead of the actual wedding bands, just to be on the safe side).
The flower girl and ring bearer are usually members of the bride or groom's immediate or extended family, but may also be a family friend.
The Role of the Ring Bearer
During the wedding processional, the ring bearer either walks directly in front of the flower girl, but more commonly, the ring bearer walks side-by-side with the flower girl (how cute!). As he walks, the ring bearer carries a small ring bearer pillow, with two rings tied to it, by ribbon (usually, the rings are purely decorative). When the wedding procession is over, the ring bearer will usually sit down with his parents (or other close relatives, if the bride and groom are the parents).
Very young boys may feel overwhelmed by the tasks assigned to the ring bearer (and may not even be able to carry ring bearer pillows), and older boys may feel insulted by a "baby" role. Thus, the recommended age for a ring bearer, is between 4-8 years of age.
What's the difference between Page Boy and Ring Bearer ?
The page boy (who may also be a girl, in which case, they are simply called a page), has the task of carrying the train of the bride's gown, whereas the ring bearer bears the task of carrying the rings.
Who is supposed to buy the ring bearer pillow for a wedding?
In the past, the ring bearer attire was provided by the families of the bride and groom, but these days, most couples expect the parents of the young lad to pay for the ring bearer attire, as well as any other expenses related to his participation in the wedding ceremony.
However, regarding ring bearer pillows, the bride and groom typically take the responsibility for its purchase, as they often keep it, as a sort of memorabilia, or keepsake item.
Including Pets in the Wedding: The "Dog Ring Bearer"
Couples who don’t personally know any young children, but would still like to have a flower girl and ring bearer in their wedding ceremony, often choose to include their beloved furry friends to fill these roles. Plus, how cute is a dog ring bearer?! Woof!