The flower girl is a young member of the wedding party
, walking down the aisle directly before the bride. As she walks, the flower girl may scatter flower petals down the aisle, or she may simply carry a pomander. (See Pomander
Like ring bearers
and page boys
, flower girls are usually members of the bride or groom's immediate or extended family, but may also be just a friend.
The Role of the Flower Girl
During the entrance processional, the flower girl traditionally walks directly prior to the bride. She may carry a flower girl basket, spreading flower petals down the aisle, or she may simply carry a small bouquet of flowers.
Once the processional is over, a young flower girl will usually sit down with her parents. If the ceremony will not be particularly long, an older child may prefer to quietly stand at the altar, alongside the other attendants.
What is the Best Age for a Flower Girl?
Because very young children may be overwhelmed by the duties, and older girls may feel insulted by a "baby" role, the recommended age for a flower girl is between 4-8 years of age. Depending on the child, you may go older, if not offensive to the girl's feelings. Of course, you may also choose to go younger, if the child is mature enough to understand the role, or if an older member of the wedding party can be assigned to assist the special little lady.
Flower Girl Traditions
There may be more than one flower girl included in the wedding ceremony, particularly if the bride has several young relatives that she would like to honor. This practice is more common at British royal wedding ceremonies, elaborate weddings modeled after royal weddings, or at Victorian-themed weddings.
Historically, the clothing worn by the flower girl was provided by the families of the bride and groom, but most modern couples expect the parents of the flower girl to pay for her clothing, as well as any other expenses related to her participation. It’s a good thing flower girl dresses also double as great dresses for other special occasions!
(e.g. Easter dresses, birthday dresses, tea party dresses, you name it!)
The flower girl’s male equivalent is the ring bearer
or page boy
. Often, the flower girl and ring bearer are made to look like a little couple, and may be dressed in miniature versions of the bride and groom's wedding attire. Some bridal manufacturers even make miniature versions of their bridal gowns, to emphasize this cute "mini-bride-and-groom" effect. Alternatively, the bride may choose a flower girl dress in her wedding colors, coordinating with the bridesmaids.
Including Pets in the Wedding
Couples who don’t personally know any young children, but would still like to have a flower girl and ring bearer in their wedding ceremony, often choose to include their beloved furry friends to fill these roles.
For man’s best friend, the Peanut Butter Collection Dog Tuxedo and the Peanut Butter Collection Dog Gown make the cutest dog wedding clothes.